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I Should Be Over It By Now!

This is a phrase I hear almost daily in my Boca Raton therapy practice. Somehow, many of us have absorbed a cruel inner clock that tells us we should be done by now with whatever emotion or difficulty we are having. Usually the “over it by now” comment comes from people who are months or years down…

A good puzzle brings the pieces together.

Doesn’t that sound like a pithy quote about life? Must have been written by a world-renowned philosopher, right? Nope. I wrote it thinking about the jigsaw puzzle on my dining room table. About a week ago, I bought a 1000-piece puzzle while I was supposed to be buying a birthday gift for my daughter’s friend….

Repairing your heart after trauma

I’ve seen a lot of terrible car wrecks lately. I didn’t actually witness the crashes happening, I was one of the many passers-by gawking at the wreckage, feeling lucky. Mangled metal and shattered plastic. Did anyone get hurt? Did anyone die? Yes, and sadly, yes. The survivors of these accidents and the families of the…

Using therapy to make better decisions

I know a young woman who is petrified of making poor financial decisions, which she frequently does. She is utterly confused about how she keeps making mistakes that cost her so much money. She’s a bright, hard-working woman who earns a good living. Why is she easily swindled out of her money? Why doesn’t she…

Feeling Betrayed? There is Hope

Infidelity is a word that immediately conjures notions of a secret, sexual affair. Do you know that infidelity can also mean betraying a spouse or partner financially? Or emotionally? In fact, the word “infidelity” has come to mean having a secret of any kind from one’s partner/spouse. Betrayed spouses and partners usually have a wide…